Why do people strongly dislike and even fear gothic/dark people?
I mean, I tended to (at least in the past) now that I’m an adult I try my best to smile and put on a good front, but I tended to just exude very dark and gothic characteristics, and even looked it. Everything about me, my dark/black clothes/shoes, my stare, my face..just everything about me was sinister in a sense, like freddy krueger ish, without the burnt skin, and in a way I kinda liked it because it made me stand out and define me. It was really cool but what I noticed was that it scared people and made me the weird guy.
They basically thought I was just "crazy, out of it, insane, had mental problems, satanic, shady, bad guy, drug dealer, serial k9ller," whatever the negative attribute, i was called it.
But little did they all know….I was just playing up a role because it was just so natural to me, and I enjoyed it.
It’s funny because I can go out there dressed like I just walked out of a comedy movie with the smiles and all, and everyone loves me.
So why do people get so naturally turned off, scared and defensive towards "dark" figures, even if its an act?
I’ve had people call me a freak, a creep, shady, crazy, all sorts of thigns; some people even felt bad for me.
Just because I decided to not go with the norm and what not.
I wasn’t even as BAD as marilyn manson!
And he’s not even scary!
(to me at least)
But still, this type of gothic like stuff just seems to really frighten people.
Don’t they get it’s just an act, a phase,..or just something that defines you at that moment? It’s like art in a sense.
Do people think that just because we look a certain way that we’re going to now suddenly bl03 up the country or something?
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People dress as an expression of how they see themselves, providing they have the resources to do that. The devil is very fleshly and is always looking for whom to devour. When I wear all black I have to battle a different spiritual attack than elsewise, kinda to my surprise.
I even once found it impossible to dance in the spirit of the LORD until I took off the black and put on something else.
People respond to other colors also. Some wear red to declare a position of power. Look at the business men who wear red ties. Pink brings a whole different response. Blue is the color of the hottest flame and invites a movement in the prophetic. This may seem like foreign thinking to many but if it is important to the LORD what the priests wore, there is significance to our clothing. I told my daughters to cover up, no cleavage allowed. Men know you are beautiful without letting it be improperly displayed, and they treat you much better if you cover up. Dressing modestly shows them the respect that they deserve. I wear my hair up for professionalism and am very careful where and with whom I wear it down. I once had a minister ask me, "_______, you have beautiful hair. Why don’t you wear it down?" I told him because I minister to men and they find it attractive. It protects their reputation also if they are seen with me at a restaurant with my hair up and not down.
So how you look is an advertisement of who you are and what your intentions may be. If you dress like a dark group who overly focus on death and gloom, you will be pitied, feared, shunned, and somewhat accepted by those who do the same, because your dress affirms them.
I once saw this big guy, ayoung man with all this makeup on him at a convenience store. I think the group of four that he was with were dressed to instill fear. I looked him in the eye and smiled and said,"You look weird." I treated him like a friend. He blushed and smiled. We had an instant connection. It was good. I had to look beyond the image put forth and see the guy who was really just wanting to fit in with his group. I hope that helped him break free of that group’s mentality and find friends that would help him succeed in life. People tend to hurt what they are afraid of.
because some gothic people are crazy satan worshipers
yeah its just a phase for some but it will never be accepted
I wasn’t aware people were, generally. I had a friend who lived in a town that was, according to her, 50% goth and 50% chav, and although a few chavs worried her, she had no fear at all of goths. Likewise, any goths I;ve come across have no bothered me, or any of my friends as far as I know (I think one of my friend group found them irritating). Furthermore, depictions of "youth" as threatening tend to be chavs or gang culture, not goths.
Maybe people find strange looks disconcerting or off putting, but I would not say there is a wide attitude of fear.
I think you answered your own question when you said " like freddy krueger ish"
seriously its a natural thing for humans to avoid things that they perceive as dangerous. (consciously or subconsciously) So don’t get mad when people avoid you because it might not even be their fault….However its extremely rude that people call you those things and that’s when it does become their fault and their issue.
Its kinda the same thing with terrorist we are all scared of them so most of us just assume that everyone in the middle east wants to blow us up so we avoid them completely.
People like to use stereotypes because they’re easy. ‘Why would I bother getting to know him when I can just assume he’s a freak.’ Some of it has to do with it reminds them of Satan, mainly because it is dark. People wear white at weddings because its pure/positive. We wear black at funerals because we are mourning over a death/negative. Many assume that Goth’s are Satanists, extremely sexual, on drugs, anti-social, rebellious, etc; and they couldn’t be as far from the truth.
I have always had the attitude of a Goth person, but never really dressed it (just because it wasn’t me). People see I am in jeans, a regular t-shirt, and think I’m an average college student. Then they talk to me more, and notice the attitude/personality, and realize that I am not your average college student in that sense. They had to get to know me before they found that out, and the main reason they did is because I did not appear to be Goth. I do like to dress that way at night when I go out, and many do, especially once high school is over.
Personally I don’t find Gothic/dark people scary or anything. I’m all up for being your own person, that’s what makes humans great, because we’re all independent.
The problem is, people generally associate the colour black, black clothing etc. with sadness, depression, death, y’know? I can understand why, because so many people stereotype goths with marilyn manson and death.
Its just an outside imagine. I don’t care what other people say, but we all judge upon looks. Looks are really a first impression. By the way that your talking you don’t sound like a "freak". Many people would think your very "normal". (Whatever normal is) But, if your walking out on the street and you look "gothic", people think about the stereotypes affiliated with people who wear dark clothing, have tattoos, etc.
Arent we all so tired of all these self-claimed goths asking the world why oh why are you judging me based on what i wear? *sob*sob* (Asker if you’re not sobbing but laughing instead then this doesnt apply to you).
First off, goth kids dont have to wear black, they CHOOSE to wear black to manifest the popular definition of said subculture, in short, to fit in (to a group that claims to defy the norm). The choice to wear make ups are contact lenses, listen to marilyn manson are intended mainly to shock people, whilst screaming: "Please leave me alone!" only to get attention, notice the irony? So lets say you impose these upon yourself and successfully achieve intended results in the first place, why do you question? You reap what you sow right?
I guess the real dilemma on your part would be: Should you dress goth and ward off potential friends or is it more important to drop the costume and be your real happy self?
Ha ha ha, sorry I’m laughing, it just reminded me of my husband. When he was younger, he used to be a goth. And of course, he looked that way too. Once a woman, a stranger, came up to him on the street and said: "God loves you too, you know? I’ll pray for you." And I’m sure she meant it actually well, from her point of view.
His stepmother called him a satan worshiper, even his dad didn’t get it and thought it has something to do with some kind of dark magic thing. Ay ay ay, humans…
As with everything, some people understand and accept it more than the others. Some people are more tolerant and open minded than the others. Some people are more intelligent, some are slightly less.
That’s life. For goths and everybody else too.:)
OMG here is another thing we have in common. I think I have an air about me that is really mysterious to other people because people always say I have a stand offish, yet, intelligent/goth feel about me. I always wear black, but sometimes mix it up with other colours depending on my mood. I don’t wear goth clothing, it’s more just darker colours I prefer. YOU are sooooo my type of guy, if I was in America I would so hunt you down and just make out with you. I loveeee that look. Who gives a shit what other people say? I can dress like that and appear cool, calm, collected and I’d rather have people intimidated by me than forget who I was and walk all over me. I always stick in peoples minds, I just am that kind of person. It’s better to be remembered for good or bad than to be forgotten and never thought about by people. We are just lucky. So when you coming to Aus?? haha!